Monday, June 30, 2014

Guess who's TWO?!!!

It is so crazy how time flies!

My litttle surro-man turned two this weekend!  I was able to Skype with (not so) Baby Alexander and his dads, which is always great . . . but this time, it was AMAZING!  Alexander was talking and was absolutely adorable.  Dora was playing on the TV and he and Dora were counting keys.  He was jumping around and shouting numbers . . . I loved it!!!

Here are a few pictures from their day!

Big Boy Alexander's 2!

Of course I sent his present about two weeks ago, it still hasn't arrived . . . I swear, he'll be 18 before I figure out the USA/Australia mailing timeline.  The funny thing is, I'm well known for purchasing things months early and then forgetting to mail them on time.  With Australia, I know I have to mail a few weeks early . . . perhaps I should switch it to months early! ;)

M and S said that they are planning to come to the U.S. in the next year or so, so we plan that I'll fly down to LA whenever that is, so I can say Hi and give the three of them big hugs.

He is such a sweetheart and a cutie pie . . . just look at some of these favorites from the last year . . .

 Killing me . . . .

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

Are You Open to Being a Surrogate for an HIV Positive Intended Parent?

When I applied to be a Surrogate back in 2007, I remember being asked if I would be open to carrying for an HIV-positive couple.  It was an interesting thought and  I'm sure, I seemed like the perfect candidate . . . 

. . . educated (more specifically a B.S. in Health Science, a minor in Human Sexuality and M.A. in Education, with a multicultural emphasis.  Hell! Even my thesis had a LGBT theme).

 . . . over a decade of experience teaching students about HIV/AIDS

. . . an open mind and open heart

* Should I mention my 7th grade Science Fair win in 1986-87 that was on what? Yep AIDS!

I would be perfect . . . OR SO I/THEY THOUGHT . . . .

You see, I don't really remember too much about the conversation, except I must have not been entirely open to the idea, or maybe I assumed my spouse (at the time) wouldn't be.  I didn't have much information, I just remember hanging up the phone with the thought that they couldn't guarantee I'd walk away from my journey HIV-negative, so my answer was No.  (I do remember feeling guilty saying no, like I was letting a loving couple down but that I couldn't put my own health at risk, I had three of my own children, after all).   

Obviously, I either didn't listen well or all the information wasn't shared with me.  Either way, I went on to three different HIV-negative Surrogacy journeys.  It wasn't until a close Surrogate friend asked my opinion about her carrying for an HIV-positive couple, that I finally got all the information I would have needed to make my own answer a resounding YES.

When Growing Generations asked her about carrying for HIV-positive IPs, they talked with her on the phone, sent her information, a link to a video and she even had a phone consult with a doctor who was up to date about this type of assisted reproduction.  When she shared with me all the information, and other Surrogate friends shared their stories of helping HIV-positive IPs, I couldn't help but feel stupid.  

Why didn't I know all this?  

Why didn't I take the time?

One of the biggest concerns of prospective Gestational Surrogates open to learning more about HART is,  
"Will I get infected with HIV"?

As it turns out, in ALL the cases of assisted reproduction using sperm from an HIV-positive person (more than 4,000 cases) . . .  are you ready for this???   NO case of transmission to the carrier of the baby (Mother or Gestational Carrier) has EVER occurred.

Another concern is the life-span of the IPs.

I have since learned that bringing a child into the loving home of a couple or individual with HIV is essentially no different than bringing a child into any loving home. HIV-positive IPs in this program go through, "an extensive health screening process before being admitted to the program.  This is designed to ensure that their HIV viral load is undetectable and that their health status is acceptable."  As a lot of people know, HIV is now a long-term manageable disease with medications that are able to completely control the virus for a lifetime.  National studies . . . "now calculate the life expectancy of those with and without HIV to be nearly identical."

I really wish I would have been more proactive about researching the possibility about carrying for HIV-positive IPs.  Hindsight is 20/20, right? 

I can't go back in time and change that, but what I CAN DO is share this up to date information with other possible Surrogates.

For more information:

Monday, June 9, 2014

Are you ready to feel old?

Yep. Feeling really old . . .

Guess who just graduated kindergarten?

I know, right?!!!

Natasha and Anjali, my surrogirlies graduated from Kindergarten last week.  GULP.

Friday, May 23, 2014

Prides of the Past- a revisit

 Just wanted to share a few of my posts about PRIDE from the past.

For several years Stacie and I would design or have shirts made . . . I still have surrogates who ask about where they can get them years later . . . so here you go.

2012- "Filled with Pride" shirt
purchase HERE

2011- "I make families, what's your superpower" shirt 
purchase HERE
2011- Pride

2010- "My Uterus is an Ally" shirt
purchase HERE
2010- Pride

I can't remember why Pride didn't work out in 2013 for my surro buddies  but there were no shirts made and it looks like 2014 may not happen either . . . .Oops!  Erin and I did go to Pride in Sacramento and San Francisco in 2013 but I think Stacie was unable to join??

However, if any of you have created shirts for Pride, please share in the comments along with link to buy.  Thanks!

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

How many Surrogates does it take to ROCK a wedding?

I married the love of my life (took a few decades to find her, but I did!)  I promise to share other wedding pictures and a blog or two about it, but for now, the only blog post that is ready to go is our "Surrogates Rock" aka "Look what I did" pictures.

A surro friend of mine was a guest at a wedding and they did a picture similar to this and I knew, I was too!  There were several other Surrogates that were invited to Erin and my big day . . . but it isn't cheap to fly to California, so sadly, they weren't physically present.  Also, these are Surrogates, so several were too pregnant to make it or had just given birth, so they couldn't be there either.

So for the small group that I did have physically present . . . . here we are.  

We total 27 surro babies between the 8 of us.  The group of us helped 16 gay couples (32 men) become  fathers or dads again with sibling projects.  I love Surrogacy!!!!

For other wedding pictures you can search Facebook, Instagram or Pinterest using the #ekwed14

Saturday, March 8, 2014

My Surrogirlies!

Things have been so crazy lately . . . and between Thanksgiving, Christmas and planning our upcoming wedding, I've been the worst blogger ever.  Sorry :(

Natasha and Anjali turned 5 a few months back and Erin (my fiance) and I were able to pay a visit before Christmas. We were able to spend some time with George, Sanj and the girls.

We met my first Surro family at Ghirardelli Square for the Christmas tree lighting!

We were able to have hot cocoa, catch up and listen to a band play Holiday music, including Feliz Navidad about 10 times.  Afterwards, we ate dinner and celebrated the girls birthday and Erin and my engagement.

The girls loved their art supplies we got them for their birthday.  They were so funny and even had "fun" taking this photo . . .  ahahahahah.  God, I love them!

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Some Moms Marry Moms. Get Over It.

Had our engagement/family photo shoot!  Still waiting for all the pictures, but our photographer, Beth with True Love Photo sent us a few "teaser pics".  Here are a few that she shared with us.

This one we added a little saying to.